Rotten Relationship
A Rotten Relationship could exist in a marriage or even in a live-in relationship.
The question is… Are you the victim or the victimizer? WHOOOO is the victim?
I’ve talked with many women in the same situation and every story is the same. Same game, different players!
- Are you in a marriage or relationship that sucks?
- Are you living in misery?
- Is he going one way and you another?
- Is he leaving early and coming back late?
- Starting arguments to get out of the house?
- Are you always somehow, the blame?
Yet, you continue to give excuses for not doing anything about it. Leaving the relationship is not always the only remedy,sometimes you have to leave YOU! Some women give excuses for remaining in their rotten relationships.
- The kids need both parents (Not just married women but also single women that are living with their children’s father)
- Telling yourself that you can’t make it financial or emotionally on your own and many more excuses.
Whatever the reason, it is a bad state to find yourself in. You say,”if I was only single, I could do better”, but you are still there. Others, say, if I left him for a while, maybe he will get better.” Well, you know what they always say, “absence make the heart grow fonder but to much absence make the heart wander.” In real life, he will get more comfortable and when the cats away the mouse will surely play.
There are many reasons and they all seem valid. Unfortunately, some of you are just going through the routine hoping some miracle will happen to change this bad situation not realizing that the change must begin with You. If he wants to live a completely distant life by going and coming as he pleases with no explanations is not good. Yet, you still continue to stay in the same predicament. Let’s address it in a way, in which you can tolerate. Even better, let’s not tolerate it at all, let God fix it for you. Get involved in the word of God first, then begin to do things you enjoy by accomplishing goals you have always wanted to achieve. Bottom line, stop sitting around feeling sorry for yourself. One or two things is going to happen. He is going to finally leave you or you are going to leave him but at least don’t make yourself look crazy. If your relationship is about to break up and you know there are other participants in the equation (another woman) then the inevitable is coming.
You are experiencing rudeness, impatience, man missing in action, no communication, it is about to end. You can only turn situations like this over to God. Speaking to your friends will not fix anything. Face it and start working on you. While he is thinking he is getting over on you, you are really working on your self-esteem. By getting yourself together, not sitting home wondering and thinking about what he is doing, you are going about God business. Allow the Word to heal your mind and heart so your whole being is not based on a MAN. Let’s face it, if you don’t get a different mindset, even if you go out and get a different man, you will continue to experience many tears and frustrations. Stop Now and make that change! Some of you are not married and the life you are living is called fornication and not a part of God’s plan for you. Worst, ifyou let him continue using you in that manner it will get worst! What he first enjoyed (sex) will soon become old and tiring to him. Keep your goods, even in today’s time. It’s still called leverage, regardless of the new standard (try it before you buy it) relationships.
One more thing Ladies, it’s alright to sweat, just don’t let them EVER see you sweat. Some of the women today are just giving a little too much information to their enemies and they are using it against them. STOP and Quote, Philippians 4:13 I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me. Stop allowing him to see your tears, fears, weakness and neediness for him. Get your act together!
Have you been to church lately? Most friends encourage their married friends to get another man or go out to the clubs to get their mind off of their situations. Well, I beg to differ! That is a temporary jealous tactic, that only last a moment and sometimes they could care less what you do. The best way and only way to overcome this hurtful phase in your life is to give it to the LORD JESUS. He said, “If you keep your mind on me, I’ll keep you in perfect Peace” Start your life over again with Jesus by the renewing of your mind and you will see change. The Lord will begin to order your steps, direct your path and put you back on the right track. Proverbs 3:5 Trust in the Lord with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding.God’s will is for you to have a happy life and the gift of Eternal life.
Let’s start a new day right now and allow God to wipe away your tears and give you a brand new start. He is the only one that can get your mind off of that undeserving partner. Being delivered from a soul tie is not quick fix, it is a process of patience and waiting on God. You have to ask yourself, how much do I love me. The question is how much do you loveJesus? The one that loved You so much that he died on the cross for your sins. The Word of God says, John 10:10 The thief cometh not, but for to steal, and to kill, and to destroy: I am come that they might have life, and that they might have it more abundantly. Make that change today! God will help you but it’s up to you!
i feel as though a relationship is not a relationship if both aren’t committed in the same manner.In several of my cases i was always the victim due to the men i choose. I always seem to draw men who always had the money cars clothes and fame which lead to them dealing feeling as tho they had to deal with multiple woman .
well I definitely can relate to this story.Me and my child’s father are always constantly at each other necks. We are the true definition of a rotten relationship. We always try to keep GOD first and just pray about it. But this story really helps me open up my mind,soul,and heart to him(god)even more because it said “If you keep your mind on me, I’ll keep you in perfect Peace”.
It would be almost impossible for me not to relate to this subject i have read upon just last night i thought our relationship was going down the drain. The same exact thing i have read in this blog is everything i and we are going threw and i believe i was meant to read every word. Due to the fact that i have no other way to try to save our relationship. So therefore i have put my situation into god’s hands and i have left it at that. After last night made me realize that our relationship was going DOWN and i tried everything and my spouse has “said” he will try to fix all of his wrong doing. I want to believe him but at this point his words mean nothing to me but i know for a fact change won’t happen over night. From what i can tell from this morning i think he may give it a fighting chance after all the begging and pleading but i know if i give in it may never change and that is what i am worried about. I have faith in us five years we have been strong even though not everyday was as golden but too many years invested and neither one of us wants it to be wasted nor wants to break apart from each other especially now we have a baby boy on the way. He tells me he wants US to stay together and work on everything we need to in order to get us back on track again. As long as he’s willing to change im willing to try to make everything work out as well. Im glad i read this blog i appreciate what is has shown me and taught me.
Sure i think you guys should try to work it out especially with a baby on the way.. But if nothing starts or seems to change than the best thing for you to do is break it off before one of you get hurt. All relationships can’t be saved or aren’t worth saving , but after putting it in gods hands he will keep you together if it’s meant to be that way.
Thank you for reading the blog. keep faith in every thing you do. You have to keep pushing forward talk to one another. Pray keep your head up and god will walk with you all the way.
Kristina,
Thanks for commenting, good luck and congrats on the birth of your son. I agree that if your better half is willing to try and you are as well it a green light for the both of you! Good luck and God bless your family.